Do you stand in front of your mirror every morning thinking, I feel beautiful today? I want to learn to say yes to that question no matter what the number on that dreaded scale just screamed at me. How about you?
I recently developed an obsession with a woman I found online, Jenna Kutcher. She is a young lady, beautiful inside and out, who went viral through this Instagram post of her and her handsome, chiseled hubby walking on the beach:
Someone once slid into my DMs and told me they couldn’t believe I had managed to land a guy as good looking as @kickingitwithkutch. I’ll be honest that I was taken aback. ✨ Part of my insecurity with my body has stemmed around being married to Mr. 6-Pack himself. Why should I, a curvy girl get him? I feel unworthy and when I write narratives in my head that because I am not thin, I don’t deserve him. 🙋🏼 This man has embraced every curve, every dimple, pound and pimple for the last ten years and has always me reminded me that I’m beautiful even when my inner dialogue doesn’t match. 🙌🏻 So yes, my thighs kiss, my arms are big, and my bum is bumpy but there is just more of me for him to love and I chose the man that could handle alllll that (and so much more!) ✨ I am so much more than my body, so is he, and so are you. Double tap if true love doesn’t see size. Photo by: @mrslindseyroman
Someone actually sent her a message telling her how surprised they were she landed a man as good looking as her 6-pack husband. I won’t even go into how I feel about the messenger and how absolutely mortified I am humans could treat each other in such a way. That’s a whole other topic…
Here’s the part I love about this story. Jenna didn’t shut down her Instagram or even delete the picture over what this person thought about her. Instead she used this viral moment to serve all of us who have ever felt unworthy because of those dreaded extra pounds.
So yes, my thighs kiss, my arms are big, and my bum is bumpy but there is just more of me for him to love and I chose the man that could handle alllll that (and so much more!) I am so much more than my body, so is he, and so are you.
Amen, Sister. There is more of us to love, my friend. And we are definitely so much more than our bodies.
I’m currently listening to Get Up! by James Levine. Just this morning, I heard him say, “Overweight people think of themselves unattractive or unworthy several times every hour.” Sadly, I know this can be true from personal experience and thoughts are a powerful force.
But let me offer this: I’ve stared at my reflection from 118 pounds all the way to 230. I can tell you those feelings of unworthiness and obsessions with imperfections showed up no matter what size pants I wore at the time.
True beauty shines from deep inside. There are days where I feel absolute peace with who I am. Those are the moments I can look in the mirror and see a gorgeous woman staring back at me.
That’s the key. Remember who you are. Remember whose you are… (Shout out to Chrystal Evans Hurst for enlightening me with those instructions in her wonderful book, She’s Still There.)
Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.
~1 Peter 3:3-4
(Check out my Inner Beauty Mirror for a fun way to remind yourself of this inspiring verse.)
Did you smile at someone lately who was having a rough day? Have you kissed away a tear stained hurt from your child’s heart or body this week? Forgiven your spouse and moved on in an argument you know you should win?
You are breathtakingly beautiful…
Don’t wait until you hit goal weight to enjoy looking in the mirror and feel this truth. We are worthy today!
I’m a work in progress with this as I am with so many of the topics I share in this online space. One thing helping right now is getting dressed every day. I know that sounds crazy, but since I work at home, I’ve been known to take my son AND pick him up from school in my pajamas.
I completely agree with the verse above that hair and clothes are not as important as our inner selves. But let’s be honest, they can certainly help us deal with our mirrors a little more lovingly.
I got new bangs last week. This forced me to try and somewhat fix my hair every morning so it wasn’t completely funky all day as no bangs more easily allowed.
So going to the trouble of trying to look better from the neck up inspired me to put on a decent outfit. This snowball effect is truly making me feel better about myself on so many levels. It reminds me of a piece of advice I’ve shared here before: Live As If.
Live as if you’ve already lost the weight. Put on a cute outfit every morning. Skip that weigh in every once in a while. Look in the mirror and praise that beautiful, strong, worthy woman glancing back at you. She is fabulous, inside and out…