Being a mom is the most stressful, incredible, emptying, and rewarding job in the world. The paradox of motherhood keeps me in a state of madness on most days.
It’s not— being a mom is still tough…
The moment I find myself screaming at my daughter about what a disaster her room is again. Then somehow being shocked when she yells back, sounding exactly like me, her shining example.
Those days I let my son play video games for hours so I can melt into the couch and a life escaping movie.
All of the restaurant kids meals of corn dogs and french fries that fill their little bellies, instead of nourishing home cooking that a good mom would serve.
Being a mom was so easy before I had kids. I could look at other moms in the store with their screeching kids and think about how my child would never. After mine were born, they would both, of course, reenact that same scene.
Today, with over 20 years of parenthood under my belt, I smile and nod in partnership with those sweet mommies scooping their little ones off the checkout candy rack.
There is hope for us overstressed, frazzled, running on empty mommies. Here is the key: GRACE. The beautiful, forgiving, soul-cleansing gift God so freely gives.
“With God, I’m never a bad mom. I might be having a bad moment…or two…or seventeen, but a few bad moments do not define me as a bad mom. God’s grace is there to cover me. Teach me. And even in the middle of a bad moment, interrupt me, redirect me, and change me.
Forgiveness is there.
Love is there.
A second chance is there.
And another one after that.”
~Lysa TerKeurst, Am I Messing Up My Kids? (p. 28)
We don’t need to be perfect. There will be many mistakes, tears, and prayers for forgiveness over the years.
Our greatest gift to our children is love. We must offer them the same love and forgiveness God continues to shower on us.
Their meals may not always consist of healthy fruits and vegetables. We may question when their bodies last came in contact with soap. Embarrassing scenes will happen at the grocery store.
However… If our precious kids feel unconditionally loved, I think we have served them well.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
~1 Corinthians 13:4-7
This. This is the love of a mother. It is absolutely what makes being a mom worth every second of the tough parts.